Dear Mr. President,
I am writing to you today about an issue that is very perplexing to me as a citizen. Now in the grand scheme of things concerning the world today, my problem may not seem very important. But in my world Mr. President, it’s all I can think about. See, I am a 47 year old disabled stay-at-home Mother of four beautiful children who are my world. The issue that concerns me is this. I cannot collect any disability benefits. There are no provisions for me. I have nowhere to turn.
Let me give you a little back story. I did work prior to my getting married and having children, however that was some time ago. I knew about the condition that now disables me, but at that time I had no idea it would disable me. I have SEVERE degenerative double scoliosis. It is progressing at an alarming rate and the two curves in my spine are now at 70 degrees and 71 degrees. This progression has occurred over the period of about 6 years. This condition is causing me an alarming amount of pain and discomfort as well as breathing and possibly cardiac issues which I need to be assessed for at this time. I find it difficult to get through my normal activities throughout the course of the day.
Now, I had no idea that this condition would progress at the rate that it has, no one told me. No one warned me. Going into my life, raising my children, I always had pain…. but you learn to live with it. Your main concern is your children, not yourself. So no one monitored my condition. Unfortunately, that may have not made any difference anyway.
Here’s the problem with our system Mr. President. A stay at home Mom is not recognized by the Social Security system as a contributing member of our society. I have done, what I believe is the most noble of all professions. Or, it used to be. I stayed at home to give my children my full-time attention. I have raised four contributing members of society who are thriving and doing well in the world. Because I myself come from a broken home, I never wanted my children to have to fight for my attention. Although, that happens anyway when there are four of them. As I’m sure your aware Mr. President, studies have been done to determine how much a “stay-at-home Mother” is worth from a financial standpoint….. And it’s well over $100,000 per year. And yet, because I didn’t “pay into” the system long enough and have become disabled during the course of raising my children…. the system has discarded me. I am basically a “displaced worker” without any refuge. It hardly seems fair Mr. President. They “acknowledge” that I am disabled because my condition is legitimate…..However, they do not care because I do not “meet the necessary criteria” needed to establish me as so in the eyes of the government. And because my husband makes over the limit of their financial guidelines, I do not qualify of SSI either. But what they fail to realize is that, I am an individual who HAS contributed to society. I am a Mother, I am the CEO of this household, I am a person who cannot contribute to my own household financially because my disability makes it impossible for me to be on my feet for long periods of time, and to do the physical tasks required of the job.
The other issue with this Mr. President is, I have tried to work. But the only thing I’m qualified to do is retail work, and in the job market we live in…. no one will hire me anyway. I’ve been out of the workforce too long, and there are 10 other people behind me who can do all the tasks required of them that I cannot. So,why would they hire me? Please understand, I am not looking for a ‘hand-out”. I originally only applied for disability under my doctors advice. I did not want that title put on me. But I soon realized that my condition warranted the title and my hope was, that if the government gave me that title, then the workforce would have to comply to it. They could not force me to do jobs that I could not do. They could not force me to work the number of hours they wanted me to work, only what I was capable of . Not only that, I had hoped maybe for rehabilitation of some kind…. maybe a chance to return to school to further my education. Alas, I have no provisions.
To the government…. I do not exist. I do not understand how this can happen to women in my position Mr. President. Have I not done a noble service to my country by raising my children to be educated, to be contributing members of our society, to be well-adjusted adults? I mean, how much is THAT worth to the society we live in considering the horrible things happening in the world today? Why is this not considered putting my time in? Where are my provisions as a woman who has done my job well? My husband has worked to support us all these years, paying into the system that denies me. I am unable to help him dig us out of debt. I am unable to help him, and it’s not fair. This is about my basic human dignity Mr. President. And all women in my position who wake up one day and realize there’s nothing out there for us. I didn’t “plan” on being disabled Mr. President…. I “planned” on returning to work doing something when my kids were old enough. And now, I cannot. I cannot go back and “earn” my work credits because I cannot hold down a job for any length of time because it becomes too painful for me to do so. So what do I do? Who do I turn to Mr. President?
I believe you have made so many changes President Obama that have benefitted our society. I voted for you. I think you are the President who looks at people like me and wants to make a difference. I would have written with this topic sooner had I not been WAITING nearly three years for Disability to answer my plea. I had no idea that this was going to be the outcome for me. I do not know what to do, or where to turn. So, I am turning to the leader of this great nation to look at my “tiny” problem and maybe address it and make a difference. Or perhaps, help me make a difference for the other women in my position?
I thank you for your time Mr. President.
Sincerely,
Tiffany J. Vitucci, Disabled Citizen who wants to make a difference.