It is an interesting conundrum to say the least. How does one define the nature of “Class”? Now I’m not speaking of class as in, place in society. No, no. I am referring to how one decides that another individual has class. What makes a person stand out in that regard more so than another? The reason I ask this question is simple really. My Mother In Law. Let me elaborate upon this quandary.
In this family, we tend to voice our opinions quite forcefully….and sometimes with some colorful words added in for ….shall we say….flare and dramatic effect? I’ve allowed our children, who are almost full grown adults to speak their minds freely, since they are going to do so anyway…and I’ve never censored them because I feel it’s more honest to tell me to my face you hate me and “go to hell” than to simply make nice to my face and say it behind my back. Now, there are lines and we all try to appreciate those lines when necessary. We all know how far to push, when and where to cross the T’s and dot the I’s so to speak. There is a running joke in our household that we all suffer from Tourettes! Hahaha!
Anyhow, this makes us rather entertaining people. We have our kids and all of our kids friends who adore us because we’re the “cool parents” who they can all come to and never feel weird or like they have to be someone else.
Well…..
Then….THIS happened.
My daughter was telling me about something that happened to her car, and was upset about it and let a few “colorful” words fly into the description. My Mother in Law was in the room and the kids have, in conversation with me or their Father, used such words before….and she’s heard it. Now. She says to my daughter….. “Kaitlyn?! Aren’t you in college?” And my daughter says “Yeah?” And my Mother in Law says….”Well, EDUCATED people don’t talk like that! That is LOW class/ NO Class!” And my daughter and I look at her and we both go….. REALLY?! Because let’s get something straight, SHE uses these words too….It’s not like she doesn’t. Now, I found myself offended because, as I said….I have been known to swear as a second language….But have never thought of myself as having “NO CLASS” ? So, I got to thinking…..what defines a person as having class exactly?
And I stumbled upon this quote….. And I thought…..YES!!
I’ve always prided myself on thinking my thoughts through very well before letting them escape my mouth. It’s called having a FILTER!! Something my Mother in Law knows nothing about. She opens her mouth before she turns on her brain. She has a way of saying the most thoughtless, hurtful things without thinking. Then when you call her out on the comments, she denies any wrong doing. To me….that’s NO Class!! I always try to think and be tactful when speaking to someone. Even in a heated argument! And in my opinion, CLASS is also knowing when to keep your mouth shut because it’s not worth the argument. However, I also believe Class is a combination of qualities about a person. I don’t believe swearing has anything to do with whether a person has class or not.
Look at some of the great comedians? Example….Joan Rivers. She swore like a truck driver and spoke of the things we all think and would never say out loud! At least not in front of certain audiences. I think that’s the key….knowing your audience. Joan Rivers was still a Classy woman! She was a humanitarian who served her favorite charities. She dressed well. And anyone who knew her, spoke well of her…..even the people she insulted!! Haha!! 😀 She was funny, and she used that humor to make people happy! And she gave back! That’s class!
Does money and social standing give you class? Um….No. But using your money and social standing to make others happy and give others joy by giving back to those less fortunate does! I also don’t believe education gives you class. It may give you a better vocabulary perhaps, but that doesn’t mean it gives you more class because you use bigger words! I love words! All kinds of words!! Big words and small words! Complicated words and simple words! And I LIKE to swear when I need to get a point across! However, I don’t do that in front of certain audiences. That’s Class!
But with my friends and immediate family? Hell YEAH!! It adds humor to the conversation to punctuate your sentences with certain off-color words!! And when one is PISSED off, the words…..Gosh darn it, and Oh fiddle-faddle just don’t cut it for me…..SORRY!When someone cuts me off in traffic for example, you won’t hear me yelling…..Oh you big Dumb Dumb Head!! No! Most likely it’s going to be something more along the line of….. Fu#% YOU and all of your ancestors!!! And in the privacy of my own home….well, I’ve been known to swear like a well-versed sailor! It’s my home!! You don’t like it…..Get out!! And don’t let the damn door hit you in the ass!!
But I know my audience! And my audience loves me!! And I know when to open up and when to shut the hell up! I dress well, I take care of my family, I cook well, I clean well, I love well….my friends, as well as my family. I try to give back with what I have. I believe God gave me a sense of humor for a reason, and I don’t think God is offended by mere words. It is our actions and who we are as individuals that give us CLASS!
So, I’m sorry Mother In Law….Your son loves me exactly the way I am….. Class…or no Class! 🙂 🙂 ♥